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HOME FOR THE HOLIDAYS

romancePosted by Nhys 05 Nov, 2013 17:15:43
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WELCOME TO THIS SPECIAL BLOG HOP POST! If you can get past the food, I hope you enjoy my Muse's reflections on this subject!

Gingerbread Cake with Orange Icing

Ingredients:

For the cake

For the orange icing

Preparation method

1. Line a 23cm/9in square cake tin at least 4cm/1½in deep with baking parchment.

2. Preheat the oven to 160C/325F/Gas 3.

3. Place the butter, sugar, golden syrup and black treacle into a pan and heat gently until the mixture has melted evenly. Set aside to cool slightly.

4. Sift the flours, ground ginger and stem ginger into a large mixing bowl and mix gently. Pour the cooled butter mixture into the flour. Add the eggs and milk and beat with a wooden spoon until well combined.

5. Pour the cake batter into the tin and level the surface with a palette knife or the back of a spoon. Bake for 50 minutes, or until the cake has risen and is golden-brown and a skewer inserted into the middle comes out clean. Set aside to cool slightly in the tin, then transfer the cake to a wire rack and set aside to cool completely.

6. Meanwhile, for the orange icing, sift the icing sugar into a bowl. Add about two tablespoons of the orange juice and mix to a smooth paste. Add more orange juice, as necessary, until you get a smooth icing of the consistency you desire.

7. Pour the icing over the cooled cake and spread lightly, allowing it to ooze over the edges. Sprinkle over chopped orange zest and put the cake aside until the icing has set.

(courtesy of www.BBC.co.uk)



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NOW FOR MY INPUT ON THIS SUBJECT!!!!


This post is part of a Blog Hop. I’ve only ever done one before, and I’m not sure what to expect. So let’s see where my Muse takes me on this topic.

For me, the meaning of the word Home has changed a great deal over the years. Home used to be the place where I ‘had’ to go, even though I might prefer to be elsewhere. Home had a lot of negative connotations attached to it – duty; responsibility; isolation; loneliness; mixed in with a painful kind of love.

I remember many adult Christmases that typified those feelings. The crazy compromises over whose place you had to drive to, in the sweltering heat, for Christmas Dinner this year. Was it my husband’s family’s turn or was it mine? Then there was the mine-field of familial antagonism. Who was going to make the first crack and who would get insulted and sulk?

I still cringe remembering one year at my place when I had thrown a short tunic on over my swimmers (we had a pool) and my brother-in-law thought it was funny to pull the bottom of it up to display my fat thighs for the video camera. That particular video did the rounds for many years, always eliciting much chortling at my expense. Then there was the time my grandmother’s jaw locked and we had to rush her to Emergency and my mother considered it a stunt designed to get attention and so she sulked over our spoiled Christmas, and then sulked some more. Then there was the time…

I think I’ve made my point. When both my parents died, first dad with prostate cancer and then mum with breast cancer; Christmas became a lot less complicated. There was only my husband’s family to placate and they were a cheerier bunch than my lot. So we’d pack up the kids and drive hundreds of miles to go there for the holidays.

Then my marriage broke up and so my ex took the kids ‘Home for the Holidays’ and I spent Christmas alone. The first few years were odd. I kept expecting to feel bad about being alone at Christmas. But what I felt was relief. No one to answer to, no stress. I could do what I liked when I liked. I looked around at the people I passed on the street and I was the relaxed and happy one. They were the stressed out messes over Christmas.

I started spending Christmas with friends in a wonderful quirky version of the celebration. My friends were Reiki Healers and I remember one rather amazing Christmas Day at my place when it was so hot the air con couldn’t keep up with the heat, so we set up the massage table in front of the open fridge and did healing on each other there.

Then my elder son died. He was born on Christmas Eve, (and that year I got to opt out of the Christmas Day debacle, thankfully). After Chris’ death Christmas took on a darker hue. Instead of enjoying my ‘alone time’ it became the time when my grief would come up and grab me by the throat. So when I moved to England, 12,000 miles from my Aussie ‘Home’ I had to find ways to get through the Holiday Season without too much maudlin self-pity and grief.

One year, I bought the full series of Buffy the Vampire Slayer to occupy my time. I’d watched part of the first season when it came out in the 90s but had lost interest quickly. I still don’t quite know how I ended up buying it, but once I started watching I was enthralled, particularly when Spike the Vampire became the love interest for Buffy. By the time he sacrifices himself for the good of humanity, (well Sunnydale anyway,) I was bawling my eyes out. I didn’t stop crying for days. By that time I’d started to see the deeper meaning in it for me. Spike was a lot like my son Chris, a tortured soul who wanted to be better than he was, and my grief for Spike was really another way to grieve for my son. So much for avoidance.

Then I found the answer to Christmas. I was working on a spiritual board game at the time, and on Christmas Day I was making little graphics of pebbles and placing them on a labyrinth I was creating. I’m talking thousands of these little pebbles all placed individually into their place on the larger graphic. I paused some time during the day and stared out at the frosty scene outside, (no hot Christmases for me anymore, thank heavens,) and I realised I was truly happy. Blissfully happy. I realised that when I tapped into my creativity I was tapping into the God Within. When I was there, nothing else mattered. I was Home.

So ‘Home’ for me is not a place or people anymore. It isn’t duty or responsibility or even love, painful or otherwise. Home is connecting with my Muse, my Higher Self, my God Within. When I do that, usually while I’m madly writing a story that has to be told, I’m Home. Do I still get lonely or sad at Holidays? Sure I do. I miss all the people I have loved, for better or for worse, during my life. But if I tap into that Energy that can loosely be called Love, then I am in a place of perfect acceptance, perfect peace and I feel Joy.

However you find your true Home, I hope you’re there for the Holidays.

x Nhys

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